Most people will ignore this as they believe they are already a better person. Being a better person goes beyond doing good, and doing the right things; it include your thinking, mode of living, actions and lifestyle in general which include the way you do things and relate with people in your environment.
Exercise acceptance. Don’t be reactive or get hooked. Don’t expend energy fighting or resisting what you cannot change (other persons, their frame of mind, their conducts, etc.). As an alternative, empower yourself to change what you can (your intellectual, your actions, your limit, etc.).
Forgive and let go of bitterness. If for no other reason than for yourself, forgive to release yourself from the damaging experiences of the past. During times of prayer or deliberation, give thanks for the wisdom and knowledge gained from your suffering. Drill the intonation, “I forgive you and I release you.”
Be genuine. Be frank and real. Have the courage and buoyancy to be yourself. Do not say things that are false, even to yourself. Reflect understanding and let go of the need for judgement. Have the ability to put yourself in somebody else’s shoes, consider how they might feel and reflect that back to them as right.
Be undeviating. Say what you mean and mean what you say. The truth will set you free. Talk with the person you have issue with, rather than triangulating others. Avoid passive-aggressive strategies to get your message across like not answering calls or not replying mails. Be kind and compassionate. Only say things if they are kind, compulsory and correct. Be of service to others. Consider the needs and feelings of others before any action.
Be honest. Do what you say you are going to do. If things have changed and you are moving in a different direction, be honest and clear with others. Be dependable; admit when you are wrong and a simple “I am sorry” would be helpful.
Love yourself. Practice self-compassion and self-care. Understand you are exactly as you should be and are perfectly lovable as you are. Forgive yourself and understand you are human and nobody is perfect. Celebrate your life, your exclusive spirit and gifts. Take exceptional care of yourself and surround yourself with people who adore you, want the very best for you and will help you grow.
….then you can be a better person!